Break pattern of dating controlling men

06-Feb-2020 13:23

While you may be coming from a place of love, forcing your partner to talk to you and spend time with you only creates distance.

How To Break It: Work on your own confidence, self-love, and having a life outside of your relationship.

Snooping may be easier and more tempting in current times due to technology and social media, but not respecting your partner’s privacy is a big no-no, and, oftentimes, once you start this habit, it’s very hard to stop.

How To Break It: When you have the urge to snoop, check in with yourself on the why, and remind yourself that snooping isn’t the solution to whatever larger issues are at play.

Piles of laundry covering your bedroom floor, dirty dishes sitting in the sink, and overflowing garbage cans are examples of bad cleanliness habits.

Whether you’re living together or apart, it’s important to take care of your space, clean up after yourself on a regular basis, and not view your partner as your housekeeper.

If the humor in your relationship has turned into taking jabs or intentionally pushing your partner’s buttons, you’ve gone too far.

Read more of my advice on how to stop nagging here.

Feeling sad when your partner isn’t with you, calling your partner constantly to check in, feeling let down if your partner has his or her own social life, and texting repeatedly if you don’t get an answer back right away are all examples of clingy habits.

So change the structure of your statements to “I’d really like it if you took out the trash” or “It’s really important to me that you are on time to our plans.” Taking ownership of how you feel and what you’re looking for will allow you to communicate without sounding critical, bossy, or controlling.

Also, practice being patient, picking your battles, and accepting the reality that you don’t have control over your partner and his or her behavior.

If the humor in your relationship has turned into taking jabs or intentionally pushing your partner’s buttons, you’ve gone too far.

Read more of my advice on how to stop nagging here.

Feeling sad when your partner isn’t with you, calling your partner constantly to check in, feeling let down if your partner has his or her own social life, and texting repeatedly if you don’t get an answer back right away are all examples of clingy habits.

So change the structure of your statements to “I’d really like it if you took out the trash” or “It’s really important to me that you are on time to our plans.” Taking ownership of how you feel and what you’re looking for will allow you to communicate without sounding critical, bossy, or controlling.

Also, practice being patient, picking your battles, and accepting the reality that you don’t have control over your partner and his or her behavior.

Moving past the dating stage causes your relationship to feel more stable and secure with time.