Dating a woman who is going through a divorce

14-Feb-2020 01:55

I am in therapy for all the feelings including guilt.

The fact is, this has hurt him and ripped his heart out (those were his words).” I have a few thoughts about this woman’s situation.

It goes without saying that Ok Cupid has one of the better reputations of more popular free dating websites for having a wide variety of quality users.

However, Ok Cupid has many not-so-great users as well, and it’s not uncommon for women to have the misfortune of encountering them, and in the past, I have as well.

What I mean is, they somehow start to blame the other person, and then become angry at the other person, and then they turn into a nightmare for that person by being cruel and vicious. But, I fell in love with someone else and it seemed right.

What they are really doing is taking the hatred they have for themselves and putting it on the other person to try to alleviate their own guilt. I know this woman who left her husband for another man. It wasn’t good for my ex-husband and it wasn’t good for my child, but it was good for me. I will always feel guilty and somewhat shameful for what I did, but I will always do my best to be a great mother, and as good of an ex-wife as I can possibly be, because my ex deserves that.” If I had heard her say this, I would have no issues with her. There are exceptions, but they’re far and few between.

I am by NO MEANS judging her for doing that, because I have no idea what her marriage was like. I heard her say to a group of women, “I’m just the bitch who left him.” She then began to giggle and laugh and roll her eyes. She isn’t being honest with herself like my reader is. Even if your husband has some serious flaws, perhaps there’s an obvious deal breaker. You might accept less child support, give him the house, do whatever it takes monetarily to appease your guilt. Please get help if you feel guilty and it isn’t going away. First of all, if your ex wasn’t a good husband, if he cheated or drank a lot, or was abusive, or had a drug problem, then you should feel SMART not GUILTY that you ended it before things got really bad. Be proud that you are doing what’s right for your children and yourself, and that you left and didn’t take the easy way out by staying, maybe because he has money, or because it was comfortable. And lastly, just because it was YOUR decision, that doesn’t mean you aren’t hurting just as much as he is.

Abuse, cheating, drinking…Whatever it is, if your husband didn’t want a divorce, and you did, you will probably still feel incredibly guilty for a long time. It makes you walk on eggshells, and try to be as nice as you can. You have to find a way to get rid of the guilt and regain self-love. Regarding my reader who refers to her ex as “a good father to our kids, a loyal husband as far as I know, and a good provider for our family,” here’s what I want to say to her. A woman could have the best husband in the world, and if someday they drift apart, or one of them changes, and the woman decides to leave, whether it’s for another man or not, then that’s what it is. I remember feeling like just because it was technically my decision, maybe I didn’t have the right to feel hurt.

Maybe I wasn’t allowed to miss him, or to grieve or cry or be upset.

497 people said that they wanted to meet me on Po F’s Meet Me feature.

While my experiences here were relatively tame, that doesn’t mean it’s the case for every woman.

I am by NO MEANS judging her for doing that, because I have no idea what her marriage was like. I heard her say to a group of women, “I’m just the bitch who left him.” She then began to giggle and laugh and roll her eyes. She isn’t being honest with herself like my reader is. Even if your husband has some serious flaws, perhaps there’s an obvious deal breaker. You might accept less child support, give him the house, do whatever it takes monetarily to appease your guilt. Please get help if you feel guilty and it isn’t going away. First of all, if your ex wasn’t a good husband, if he cheated or drank a lot, or was abusive, or had a drug problem, then you should feel SMART not GUILTY that you ended it before things got really bad. Be proud that you are doing what’s right for your children and yourself, and that you left and didn’t take the easy way out by staying, maybe because he has money, or because it was comfortable. And lastly, just because it was YOUR decision, that doesn’t mean you aren’t hurting just as much as he is.

Abuse, cheating, drinking…Whatever it is, if your husband didn’t want a divorce, and you did, you will probably still feel incredibly guilty for a long time. It makes you walk on eggshells, and try to be as nice as you can. You have to find a way to get rid of the guilt and regain self-love. Regarding my reader who refers to her ex as “a good father to our kids, a loyal husband as far as I know, and a good provider for our family,” here’s what I want to say to her. A woman could have the best husband in the world, and if someday they drift apart, or one of them changes, and the woman decides to leave, whether it’s for another man or not, then that’s what it is. I remember feeling like just because it was technically my decision, maybe I didn’t have the right to feel hurt.

Maybe I wasn’t allowed to miss him, or to grieve or cry or be upset.

497 people said that they wanted to meet me on Po F’s Meet Me feature.

While my experiences here were relatively tame, that doesn’t mean it’s the case for every woman.

I got an email from a reader who explained that she is going through a divorce, and that the divorce was HER decision.