Jewish religious dating

28-Dec-2019 05:18

And why is such restraint, forbidding even mere “touching” (or negiah in Hebrew), so crucial a factor in the successful observance of those laws that define the Jewish standards of family loyalty and interpersonal relationships?

Jewish law states that once a young woman begins menstruating, she assumes the status of nidah, and remains, from that point on, “off limits”, in regard to physical contact with men, until the day of her marriage.

Modern novels, movies, magazines, and television programs which fantasize and glorify the notion of “romantic love” are describing a type of ideal relationship that may exist in literary form or in the poetic imagination, but which bears very little resemblance to what love is all about in the everyday world of real life.

People who read love stories or watch television programs should realize that while courtship, chivalry, romance and passion do play their separate and respective roles in the dramatic awakening and eventual attainment of satisfaction in love, these are all elements in a process, but they do not by any means add up to the whole of the love experience.

[Therefore, objectivity is distorted, and the essential relationship becomes confused…are we really headed towards commitment?If you find that you are “falling”, realize while your eyes are still open, while you can still think clearly and objectively, who this person is for whom you are falling.By whom, I refer to background, commitment, education, character, personality, family, friends, values, concern for others, goals and ideals—the things that really count—not the external, superficial things, some of which may be “put on”. Fall in love deliberately, with control, not on the rebound, or because you’re simply “in love with love”.To fool oneself through this tactic is to lose control over oneself.Romantic love is not always related to real love, especially when it ignores the true personalities and mutual interest of those involved.

[Therefore, objectivity is distorted, and the essential relationship becomes confused…are we really headed towards commitment?If you find that you are “falling”, realize while your eyes are still open, while you can still think clearly and objectively, who this person is for whom you are falling.By whom, I refer to background, commitment, education, character, personality, family, friends, values, concern for others, goals and ideals—the things that really count—not the external, superficial things, some of which may be “put on”. Fall in love deliberately, with control, not on the rebound, or because you’re simply “in love with love”.To fool oneself through this tactic is to lose control over oneself.Romantic love is not always related to real love, especially when it ignores the true personalities and mutual interest of those involved.Nor is romantic love an end in itself, so that it cannot and should not be accepted in defense of any type of behavior in any male-female relationship which is less than a properly controlled one.