In fact, I completely forgot about it until a few responses started to pop up. But what about that 4 percent of blacks and 16 percent of whites?It was Britni Danielle’s "Nobody Cares That You Date White Girls" piece for Clutch magazine that caused me to go back and reevaluate. Lots of people in this country would like to believe that race relations are swell, racism is dead, and everyone is happy. Image: Gallup There's a belief among some members of racial groups that one who dates outside of that race is disloyal, self-loathing, or has, for lack of a better word, been brainwashed. As author Lincoln Blades asserts in a piece at Uptown magazine, we need to promote an honest discussion about interracial relationships. It's hard to face the truth that educated and talented women like Mac Arthur Fellow Tiya Miles feel contempt towards black men who date white women.Although I am a black woman in an interracial relationship, I only gave Baker's piece a cursory glance at first. "A lot of people aren't bothered by interracial relationships, but, on the flip side, many people still are.In the midst of a full news feed, it just seemed like more noise. According to a 2013 Gallup poll, 96 percent of blacks and 84 percent of whites approve of black-white marriage.But then something happened: people started talking to me, flirting even.Once I escaped the small, isolated microcosm of Upstate New York, I met people who didn't think of me just based off of my skin color.I was fully aware that he had blond hair and blue eyes when I met him, obviously, but I didn't really understand what that meant until years later.One of the most difficult parts about being in an interracial relationship is the fact that I started to question things I never I questioned before.
The concept of a black man in a relationship with a white woman is a "thing" that people have an opinion on...
One of my favorite things to do was to play with his hair.
He would lie with his head in my lap, and I would run my fingers through the blond strands.
After five years of my boyfriend and I dating on and off, I think my mom has come to love him almost as much as I do.
It didn’t seem to matter anymore what he looked like.
The concept of a black man in a relationship with a white woman is a "thing" that people have an opinion on...One of my favorite things to do was to play with his hair.He would lie with his head in my lap, and I would run my fingers through the blond strands.After five years of my boyfriend and I dating on and off, I think my mom has come to love him almost as much as I do.It didn’t seem to matter anymore what he looked like.I was in a new city and in a completely new situation.